Mummy's Voice: Mummy's note to Little Ayden.

Dear Little Ayden,

When you were in me, during the pregnancy, there were so many times i felt so sorry to you.
I was worried if kor kor would have accidentally kicked you at times when i had to care for him.
I was worried if mummy's certain actions might have hurt you unknowingly, though knowing with the water bag, it was unlikely.

Well, there is one thing you will have to learn to understand when you grow up..that is despite certain situations, like for this instance, pregnancy for mummy, life still goes on. There are work that is waiting to be done and have to be done whether or not mummy is pregnant with you.

So the minute you came out, I was so happy to hear and see for myself that you are absolutely ok. Well developed, good heartbeat and everything else is fine. Although all the while the ultrasound scans shows you are great.

Inevitably, there are definitely pros and cons of being the 1st or subsequent babies for the family. When mummy first had Asher Kor Kor, many many note taking, much more attention paid to the little details during the pregnancy, much more reading etc... ...cos I was a new mummy FIRST TIME!

So Little Ayden, you probably had lesser such benefits. But because mummy is more experienced this time, I am able to handle you with much more confidence and knowledge. That is also why, you had the benefit of staying in the ward with mummy most of the time during the 3 days stay at the hospital, rather than in the hospital nursery. Even back at home, mummy is able to handle my emotions and mental state much much better compared to when I had your Kor Kor...despite being much more tiring since now it is caring for 2 of you, rather than just Kor Kor Asher, the only one back then.

In fact, Mummy actually bought you SOOOOOooOO much more new clothes even before your arrival, when Kor Kor Asher probably only had 2 or 3 new sets before he came. Simply because Mummy knows that it is inevitable that you will have to inherit the pass down clothes, toys, books and stuffs, and you may end up not having a lot of new stuffs... ... so unknowingly mummy ended up buying more more clothes for you instead. ;p

When you are old enough to read and understand the rationale behind this post, just remember what mummy wants you to understand is... ...

Whether as the number 1 baby or number 2 baby or more... ...
All of you are important to Daddy and Mummy, important to the family.
We love all of you with no differences...but sometimes each of you may be loved in a different way.
Some things in life are beyond our control and the chain of events that happen thereafter are inevitable.

So never compare. Because each of you are unique and individual.
Each of you are just as important to us.

Loved,
Daddy & Mummy!